"By the Sea" is a beautifully-filmed movie in which the pace and the dialog — the solitude and the silence — conveys a certain emptiness. At the heart of the film is overcoming adversities that can grow a marriage apart. You don't really get the sense that you even know what that adversity is for more than half the film. You know that Vanessa is struggling with something profound and that her husband, Roland, is trying to understand but feels compelled to give her her space (during which time he drinks away the day at a cafe).
You get the feeling that Roland failed his wife somehow and that she blames him for her misery. You also get the impression that he's locked out of her mind, which hides a painful secret. Vanessa suffers flashbacks, which implies that she is dealing with PTSD. There are scenes in which she almost seems fearful of her husband's advances. I had my mind made up as to what this "something" that has come between them is, until the last quarter of the film at which point it is revealed to be something quite different.
The pain Vanessa is experiencing is pain she insists on carrying alone. There are scenes in which Roland asks Vanessa to get it off her chest but she refuses — which only reinforces the impression that Vanessa has been the victim of a profound trauma. When the film reveals what the issue really is, the way in which Vanessa behaves makes no more sense than it did to begin with.
"By the Sea" has merit from an artistic vantage point and from the way in which it captures the "make or break point" between husband and wife. But it left me thinking that Vanessa's behavior would better correlate to the aftermath of abuse, not the reason supplied. It's not that the reason for Vanessa's depression isn't believable because it most definitely is a source of personal devastation. But the way it is played off between the two of them led me to assume that Roland wasn't really "in on it" himself. For at least half of the film Roland seems trapped on the outside of his wife's suffering looking in when he is in reality a victim of the same circumstances that so devastated his wife. For a great deal of the film, "By the Sea" leaves the viewer to speculate about what might be responsible for throwing Vanessa and Roland's marriage into crisis. Is it the slow burn of the day-to-day grind? Is it loneliness and isolation? Is it infidelity? Perhaps the genius of this film is that it is intended to evoke all of those things and none of those things at all.
You get the feeling that Roland failed his wife somehow and that she blames him for her misery. You also get the impression that he's locked out of her mind, which hides a painful secret. Vanessa suffers flashbacks, which implies that she is dealing with PTSD. There are scenes in which she almost seems fearful of her husband's advances. I had my mind made up as to what this "something" that has come between them is, until the last quarter of the film at which point it is revealed to be something quite different.
The pain Vanessa is experiencing is pain she insists on carrying alone. There are scenes in which Roland asks Vanessa to get it off her chest but she refuses — which only reinforces the impression that Vanessa has been the victim of a profound trauma. When the film reveals what the issue really is, the way in which Vanessa behaves makes no more sense than it did to begin with.
"By the Sea" has merit from an artistic vantage point and from the way in which it captures the "make or break point" between husband and wife. But it left me thinking that Vanessa's behavior would better correlate to the aftermath of abuse, not the reason supplied. It's not that the reason for Vanessa's depression isn't believable because it most definitely is a source of personal devastation. But the way it is played off between the two of them led me to assume that Roland wasn't really "in on it" himself. For at least half of the film Roland seems trapped on the outside of his wife's suffering looking in when he is in reality a victim of the same circumstances that so devastated his wife. For a great deal of the film, "By the Sea" leaves the viewer to speculate about what might be responsible for throwing Vanessa and Roland's marriage into crisis. Is it the slow burn of the day-to-day grind? Is it loneliness and isolation? Is it infidelity? Perhaps the genius of this film is that it is intended to evoke all of those things and none of those things at all.
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