We Are Dad (2005) User Reviews

Foster gay parents fighting hypocrisy to adopt their foster HIV kids who nobody else wanted

[marthadesouza · 9/10 · 25 June 2005]

By chance I had the honor to see We Are Dad. It totally changed my mind regarding adoptive gay parents. I grew up with the (wrong) notion (given to me by the adults around me) that gay parents couldn't provide a healthy medium for a developing child to be raised in. Come on! How many nuclear families screwed up their kids. And these two gay guys are the best. After seeing it and pondering about it I am a lot more inclined to be all for gay marriage and adoption by gay parents. I am really glad I saw this factual film. It opened my eyes, mind, and heart. I recommend to anyone to see it. You will have more facts with this documentary on which to base your opinions so you can also give it established on some ground and not only on discrimination and narrowness of mind like I did.

A revealing look at the absurd fears of gay parenting. Inspiring.

[OutGirlInt · 10/10 · 23 March 2005]

Rodger and Steven were both neonatal nurses in Florida during the onset of the AIDS crisis. When a crack mother gives birth to a baby girl who is HIV+, has multiple medical problems and is not expected to live beyond two years, the State of Florida is at a loss to find a foster home that will take her. When Steven volunteers to bring the child home a parenting odyssey begins that will make most people shudder with amazement. Five HIV+ kids later, the State of Florida is still refusing to allow Rodger and Steven to adopt any of their children - the oldest is now 15yrs - because Florida deems them morally unfit to be parents. It is a thoughtful and insightful look at the hypocrisy of a self-righteous, irrational, and paranoid childcare system. Being a parent of one normal kid is hard enough, even in a society of support, but being a parent of five medically and emotionally challenged kids in a society that demeans you at every turn is an amazing and inspiring accomplishment. Witty and informing, a MUST see. It recently won the Jury Prize for Best Documentary Feature at Cinaquest Film Festival.

GOD Blessed us with the Roger and Stevens of the World

[bigggbearmannn · 10/10 · 9 October 2005]

I was absolutely amazed, as I sat down to look at the documentary. It made me want to immediately get up and travel to Florida, so I could offer my assistance.

This story of Roger and Steven goes a long way in smashing the myth that gay couples are ill equipped to offer children the care, nurturing and role modeling necessary to insure that they grow up to be healthy men and women.

I am a 54 year old African American and this story made me feel ashamed of some of my views on whites adopting black children. In spite of the racists actions and attitudes they obviously face constantly, they will not be broken. They are truly dedicated to the well being of the kids. I am now ready and willing to admit that I could only hope to be half the parent that these two gentlemen have become.

Their unconditional love for these children is truly inspiring. Their willingness to take responsibility for these children, that unfortunately started life off with a major illness and/or various addictions. These men are truly a blessing from GOD! They are role models for all of us, if we have the ability to open our hearts and eyes enough to imagine the condition these children would be in if it weren't for Steven and Roger.

Words cannot express how impressed I am, so I will stop trying.

GOD Bless you Roger and Steven and I know that GOD is watching over you and the children.

MY LOVE GOES OUT TO YOU GUYS AND THE PEOPLE THAT MADE THIS DOCUMENTARY POSSIBLE! Lonnie F Wilson

This Movie

[jinness4 · 10/10 · 23 June 2006]

These men should be seen as hero's as a mother i could only wish there were more people like them the state of Florida is so full of different people that they just got confused when they met these guys.. i tell ya I'm from Florida born and raised and well .. we just cant make up our minds .. but i have and i say let them all stay Where is the justice? these men put up with so much heartache and yet they get turned down to get it on paper they have done the job that others didn't want to do that others felt wasn't there place when a child has no one to love them its our duty to Grab that child and give them the love and teaching and raise them well with love and a clear mind

Love this film

[acthomas-79196 · 15 July 2017]

This documentary brought tears to my eyes because these two people loved and cared for children that nobody wanted. The foster care system is overcrowded, understaffed, and a mess, especially in Florida. I hope all is well with their family because they all love each other regardless of the couples sexual preference. God bless them all!

Interesting documentary...

[rugrad2005 · 3/10 · 17 January 2006]

I find it interesting how if any contemporary social trends aren't accepted by someone then they are regarded as "narrow minded." It's a very brilliant strategy, I mean really. Come 100 years when, God knows what, maybe pedophiles are pushing for civil rights then the people who see it as morally wrong are going to be called "narrow minded" because they're not going with the flow of the social trend. Oh certainly not now though... Dare we call pedophile objectors narrow minded... it's not the social norm. In any case, I will admit that I did find the documentary well directed and filmed. I do consider myself leaning to the right but I never objected to gay parents adopting children because they abuse and mistreat them... I think that's ludicrous but the film erroneously makes it out like all conservatives view it that way and it's just not true and thats been shown in numerous nationwide polls. Some senator and a few people's opinions don't represent the mass conservative population and it's a clear trick that the film uses. It makes them look like ignorant and stupid idiots. The reality is that most conservatives disagree with gay parents adopting because they view being gay as morally wrong, which it is, and that kids will grow up adopting the notion that being gay is OK. They may be straight, but many kids will be raised with accepting homosexuality as OK. Yes these kids will grow up doctors, lawyers, maybe even charity workers... As this film so gloriously points out. They will lead successful lives. But that doesn't excuse their morally corrupt views and raising a new generation of morally corrupt children who think homosexuality is OK. Even despite their success in life... I was just struck at how the film exploited this trick... People can call me "narrow minded" or whatever they want. Morality doesn't change according to how social norms think it should be. Gay parents may very well raise successful children and some heterosexual parents may very well do a poor job (even though that in itself is a misconception because heterosexual parents far outnumber gay parents... there is no doubt that if it was 50/50 the gay parents would abuse their kids just as much if not more). But it is all at the expense of raising them to have corrupt values... Just because conservatives don't sell out to a social norm and accept whatever people at a certain point in time think should be accepted, doesn't make them close minded. If anything it makes the left-wing close minded for going with the flow of society. If being critical of evil values earns me the title of "narrow minded", even though it very well isn't, then I will dust my feet off and walk away with a smile.