A gay couple who are pediatric AIDS nurses become foster parents to infants who are HIV positive, and decide to challenge the State of Florida's law banning adoption by gay people


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Credited cast:
Roger Croteau ...
Steven Lofton ...
Rest of cast listed alphabetically:
Alan Ball ...
Himself - Florida State Representative
Ron Brenesky ...
Himself - Unity Coalition Miami
Devon Brooks ...
Himself - USC, School of Social Work (as Professor Devon Brooks)
Paul Cameron ...
Himself - Founder, Family Research Institute (as Dr. Paul Cameron)
Richard Cardran ...
Himself - Family Friend
Matthew Coles ...
Himself - Lead Counsel, ACLU
Ken Connor ...
Himself - Family Research Council
John Davidson ...
Himself - Lead Counsel, Lawrence v. Texas
Ginger Delgado ...
Herself (archive footage)
Margaret Fischl ...
Herself - Director, AIDS Clinical Research Unit - Miami (as Dr. Margaret Fischl)
Himself (archive footage)
Robert Kunst ...
Himself - Miami Civil Rights Activist (as Bob Kunst)
'Grandpa' Leonard ...
Himself - Family Friend


A thought provoking documentary essaying the struggles of two gay men, Steve Lofton and Roger Croteau, who've been a couple for more than 18 years, to maintain their family of five foster children, who have been labeled "undesirable" by the State of Florida's Department of Children and Families. Their patchwork family runs the gamut of age and race, from two blond tykes to three mixed race African American teens, and all five have tested HIV-positive. When when the oldest child undergoes an HIV seroconversion from positive to negative, the state relabels him "desirable," and thus "adoptable," and the family risks losing him forever. Written by trivwhiz

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3 March 2005 (USA)  »

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Nominated for Best Documentary at the 2006 GLAAD Media Awards. See more »


Croteau, Roger: Keep the dykes on bikes away from the horses!
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Performance by Bert S.
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A revealing look at the absurd fears of gay parenting. Inspiring.
23 March 2005 | by (United States) – See all my reviews

Rodger and Steven were both neonatal nurses in Florida during the onset of the AIDS crisis. When a crack mother gives birth to a baby girl who is HIV+, has multiple medical problems and is not expected to live beyond two years, the State of Florida is at a loss to find a foster home that will take her. When Steven volunteers to bring the child home a parenting odyssey begins that will make most people shudder with amazement. Five HIV+ kids later, the State of Florida is still refusing to allow Rodger and Steven to adopt any of their children - the oldest is now 15yrs - because Florida deems them morally unfit to be parents. It is a thoughtful and insightful look at the hypocrisy of a self-righteous, irrational, and paranoid childcare system. Being a parent of one normal kid is hard enough, even in a society of support, but being a parent of five medically and emotionally challenged kids in a society that demeans you at every turn is an amazing and inspiring accomplishment. Witty and informing, a MUST see. It recently won the Jury Prize for Best Documentary Feature at Cinaquest Film Festival.

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