They only show babies at the end - no reality that a lot of people never get their happy ending of family, and a massive lie from them directly saying that adoption will guarantee a kid. I found this to be a slap in the face to the many of us who have gone through failed adoptions, closed programs, bankrupt adoption agencies, and birth mother scammers who pretend to be pregnant just to prey on vulnerable couples.
As someone who went through 6 rounds of donor egg IVF with 9 embryos, a devastating miscarriage, a 2 year wait for a little girl in Ethiopia we never got to take home because the country closed their doors, and then another 2 year wait for domestic adoption which brought us a birth mother who was supposedly due in just a few weeks and ultimately turned out to be a scammer just as we'd packed our bags, I am part of a large community of people who are childless-not-by-choice no matter how hard they tried. To imply that we all get our happy endings as parents if we have enough money and try long and hard and creatively, it's not only inaccurate it's ethically wrong and insensitive. There are enough myths about infertility and adoption (with the latter, that there are "tons" of kids out there when there are actually more prospective parents than available kids and a foster system that openly focuses on reunification to DNA-family no matter how great the foster parents are), and documentaries like this further the assumptions that 'never giving up' equals parenthood.
As someone who went through 6 rounds of donor egg IVF with 9 embryos, a devastating miscarriage, a 2 year wait for a little girl in Ethiopia we never got to take home because the country closed their doors, and then another 2 year wait for domestic adoption which brought us a birth mother who was supposedly due in just a few weeks and ultimately turned out to be a scammer just as we'd packed our bags, I am part of a large community of people who are childless-not-by-choice no matter how hard they tried. To imply that we all get our happy endings as parents if we have enough money and try long and hard and creatively, it's not only inaccurate it's ethically wrong and insensitive. There are enough myths about infertility and adoption (with the latter, that there are "tons" of kids out there when there are actually more prospective parents than available kids and a foster system that openly focuses on reunification to DNA-family no matter how great the foster parents are), and documentaries like this further the assumptions that 'never giving up' equals parenthood.
