Poly-Love (2016)

Evita Sawyers: Herserlf

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• Evita Sawyers : There are so many different kinds of love and ways to love, and so many different ways that people show love and interpret love that I just think that it's one of those things that nobody will ever be able to explain what it is.

• Evita Sawyers : It was a lot to deal with. And so I think we got into the swinging thing just to get away, kind of escape.

• Evita Sawyers : I never felt like I would ever find someone that I liked, a female that I liked, that liked me. It was almost unbelievable for me that here is this girl that I am so into and she likes me back.

• Evita Sawyers : It was funny because I had to actually come out to the kids as bisexual. They even didn't know what that was, and I explained that to them. And then after that we told them who Briana was and we just said, "She is our partner. The way mommy and daddy are romantically involved with each other, they are romantically involved with her. You gotta respect her, treat her like any adult, and care for her, and love her."

• Evita Sawyers : A lot of people think that because you are in polyamorous relationships that jealousy doesn't happen or that it just shouldn't happen, and that is just not the case. It comes up so often that you learn how to cope with it better.

• Evita Sawyers : If you are poly but you are dating separately, a lot of what would be happening with the person's other partner is happening apart from you, but with the triad it's right in your face. And it almost feels like a double betrayal because both of your partners are with somebody else and that someone else are each other.

• Evita Sawyers : I told Kevin that if I put myself in his shoes, if I had a partner that I love and that loves me, that I wouldn't want to say goodbye to that until I was ready to it. Ready to say goodbye to it. And, for that reason alone, I said I think you should continue on with her.

• Evita Sawyers : We got into Poly together, we dated this person together, and now it feels like we are moving apart. It feels like a separation, like he is going on without me and charting his course. And he knows where he is going, and he is moving on without me. And I feel like I am staring off into the poly-wilderness and I don't know what it holds, and I am all alone.

• Evita Sawyers : There is a heightened level of communication in polyamory you have to learn. We don't really learn how to communicate, and in poly you have to.