Where... where do the quiet gays... go? Where are the quiet gays supposed to go?... the pressure on my people to express our identity and pride through the metaphor of party is very intense. Don't get me wrong. I love the spectacle. I really do but I've never felt compelled to get amongst it. Do you know? I'm a quiet soul. My favorite sound in the whole world is the sound of a teacup finding its place... on a saucer.