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The One Where Ross Finds Out 

A drunken Rachel calls Ross and reveals her feelings for him on his answering machine. Meanwhile, Monica keeps busy by being Chandler's personal trainer and Phoebe constantly wonders why her current boyfriend won't sleep with her.


Peter Bonerz


David Crane (created by), Marta Kauffman (created by) | 8 more credits »




Episode complete credited cast:
Jennifer Aniston ... Rachel Green
Courteney Cox ... Monica Geller
Lisa Kudrow ... Phoebe Buffay
Matt LeBlanc ... Joey Tribbiani (as Matt Le Blanc)
Matthew Perry ... Chandler Bing
David Schwimmer ... Dr. Ross Geller
Lauren Tom ... Julie
Arye Gross ... Michael
Barry Diamond ... Phone Guy
Marcus Jacques Marcus Jacques ... Waiter (as Marcus D. Jacques)


Rachel claims to be over Ross and Monica sets her up with a date. Rachel doesn't concentrate on her date and gets really drunk because she is upset that Ross and Julie are going to buy a cat together. Her date tells her she needs a "closure" to get over Ross. Rachel then calls Ross and leaves him a message saying she is over him. When Ross hears the message he is taken aback that Rachel has feelings for him and is very confused. Ross refuses to buy a cat and tells Rachel she had no right telling him about her feelings because he was ok before he knew and now he isn't. They argue and kiss - for the first time! Written by Anonymous

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Comedy | Romance


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The producers wanted to use U2's "With or Without You" as the background clip for Ross and Rachel's kiss; however, there wasn't enough time for them to arrange for the necessary rights. Instead of the song, a studio clip similar to the band's playing style was used. The actual song "With or Without You" is played in the following episode. See more »


When Rachel walks out of the coffee shop with the tray in her hand, she walks back in and sets the tray on a table. However, when she turns to leave, the tray is nowhere to be seen. Actually, the tray contains a yellow mug, and in the wide shot, the mug is visible on the table, which would imply that the tray is still there. See more »


Ross: You had no right to tell me you ever had feelings for me.
Rachel Green: What?
Ross: [shouts] I was doing great with Julie before I found out about you!
Rachel Green: Hey, I was doing great before I found out about you. You think it's easy for me to see you with Julie?
Ross: Well then you should have said something before I met her!
Rachel Green: I didn't *know* then! And how come *you* never said anything to *me*?
Ross: There was never a good time.
Rachel Green: Yeah right. You only had a *year* , we only hung out *every* night.
Ross: Not, not, not... *every* night.
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References Reformatory (1938) See more »


Dance of the Hours
Performed by Amilcare Ponchielli
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Weird Episode To Watch
8 December 2014 | by slightlymad22See all my reviews

A weird episode for me this one.

Plot In A Paragraph: Upset that Ross is buying a cat with his girlfriend Julie, Rachel gets drunk on a date and leaves him a drunken voicemail saying she is over him. Meanwhile when Chandler is upset when he finds out he has put on a little weight, an unemployed and bored Monica appoints herself his personal trainer (Even if he wants her to or not) and Phoebe worries the guy she is dating does not think she is sexy enough as he doesn't seem to want to sleep with her.

My mixed feelings on this episode stem from the Phoebe storyline being very sexist. The Chandler and Monica storyline was fun, but again David Schwimmers acting was awkward to watch once he heard the voicemail.

But we get to see Ross and Rachel have their first real kiss.

A generous 7/10 for the Perry and Cox storyline and the first kiss.

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9 November 1995 (USA) See more »

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