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50 Ways to Leave Your Lover (2004)

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A writer decides to leave Los Angeles to restart his life but before leaving, he meets the woman of his dreams and his plans quickly go awry.


Jordan Hawley


Jordan Hawley
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Cast overview, first billed only:
Ashley Ummel Ashley Ummel ... Homicidal Twin
Sarah Ummel Sarah Ummel ... Homicidal Twin
Jack Jozefson Jack Jozefson ... Porn Star (as Jack Jozephson)
Mary Audrey Kneipp Mary Audrey Kneipp ... Grandmother
Fred Willard ... Bucky Brandt
Paul Schneider ... Owen McCabe
Jenn Page ... Nature Girl
Marion Kerr ... Perky Girl
Sarah Mahoney Sarah Mahoney ... Nervous Girl
Dorian Missick ... Rob
Poppy Montgomery ... Allison
G.O. Parsons ... Donnie
Kaarina Aufranc ... Eileen
Jim Zulevic ... Jack
Kelly Lynn Warren ... Joan


Events after an earthquake convince Owen, a writer of hack "as told to" autobiographies, to leave L.A. He burns his bridges telling people what he really thinks, quits his current client (a randy astronaut), and heads for the airport. Waiting for his flight to New York, he sees Val, a friend of his latest ex; they chat, and Owen postpones leaving just to make sure she's not for him. For a week, he accelerates courtship: asks to meet her parents, introduces her to Allison his best (and only) friend, and takes her to a party where a hound he knows will try to seduce her. What if she passes all the tests? Can Owen still find a way to divorce his life and get out of L.A.? Written by <jhailey@hotmail.com>

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Comedy | Romance

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Rated R for sexuality, language and drug use

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Also released as How to Lose Your Lover (2004) in the US. See more »


Referenced in Dawson's Creek: The Scare (1998) See more »

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Good Movie if you are in mood of it..
2 May 2009 | by ona6See all my reviews

Owen McCabe (Paul Schneider) is an writer residing in LA. Shaken up by a minor earth-quake, he realizes how unhappy he is with his life: he just writes the lives of other people just to make to look good (or better than what they actually are) and he has not met someone special one all this time. So, he decides to "break-up" with his life and move on. Unfortunately for him, just when he accepts a job in New Jersey, he meets Val (Jennifer Westfeldt) at the airport. The conflict between knowing that Val is out there available and that he really needs to go to Jersey forces him to put this relationship on fast track, facilitating his decision: should he stay or should he go?

Of course, when any romantic movie begins with such a premise, it sounds like one of these awfully made chick-flicks like On the Line (no offense): guy meets the girl but can not forget about her and yet they somehow wind up together a result of some freak coincidences and/or events. Thank god, "how to lose your lover" in nothing like this cliché. Here, writer/director Jordan Hawley comes up two original ideas. The initial concept of "breaking of my life" seemed pretty fresh: Owen quits his job, cancels his cell-phone, sells his car and starts a fight with everybody so he can not come back to LA, no matter what. In other words, he burns his bridges in LA. But I think Hawley hits a home-run with the way Owen puts his relationship with Val on fast track (e.g., meeting the parents on the first date, asking her to have sex almost immediately), together with seeing what such a shallow guy prioritizes in his relationship with Val. Additionally, side-characters like Bucky Brandt (Fred Willard) as the astronaut with drinking problems and Allison (Poppy Montgomery) as the bisexual love- interest of Owen are well-designed and beautifully fit into the story.

How to lose your lover is not Eiffel Tower of romantic comedy genre and it won't be a timeless classic either. However, if you watch this movie just keeping in mind that this is nothing but a little movie and appreciating aforementioned ideas of Hawley, you'll find it good and entertaining. I have known Paul Schneider through his minor roles (like in "the family stone") and this is the first time I saw him under the spotlight. I must say he gives a solid performance as this a**hole Owen. Despite that the end seems a little bit weak and unsatisfying comparing the rest of the movie, How to lose your lover is definitely worth- seeing, especially if you like dark comedy...


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10 September 2004 (USA) See more »

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How to Lose Your Lover See more »

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Los Angeles, California, USA

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