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Remember Me, My Love (2003)

Ricordati di me (original title)
In the dysfunctional Italian middle-class family Ristuccia, the middle-aged executive Carlo has a stalled life without passion, bored in his work and having a monotonous life with his wife ... See full summary »


Gabriele Muccino


Gabriele Muccino (story), Gabriele Muccino (screenplay) | 1 more credit »
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Cast overview, first billed only:
Fabrizio Bentivoglio ... Carlo Ristuccia
Laura Morante ... Giulia Ristuccia
Nicoletta Romanoff ... Valentina Ristuccia
Monica Bellucci ... Alessia
Silvio Muccino ... Paolo Ristuccia
Gabriele Lavia ... Alfredo
Enrico Silvestrin Enrico Silvestrin ... Stefano Manni
Silvia Cohen Silvia Cohen ... Elena
Alberto Gimignani Alberto Gimignani ... Riccardo
Andrea Sama Andrea Sama ... Matteo
Amanda Sandrelli Amanda Sandrelli ... Louise
Blas Roca-Rey Blas Roca-Rey ... Matt
Riccardo Zinna Riccardo Zinna ... Benedetto
Pietro Taricone Pietro Taricone ... Paolo Tucci
Giulia Michelini Giulia Michelini ... Ilaria


In the dysfunctional Italian middle-class family Ristuccia, the middle-aged executive Carlo has a stalled life without passion, bored in his work and having a monotonous life with his wife Giulia. Giulia is a frustrated and hysterical woman because she gave up of being an actress in her youth to dedicate to the family. Their needy son Paolo feels lost and rejected, trying to find who he is and flirting with a schoolmate. Their seventeen years old daughter Valentina is decided to work in a television show, and is fighting to have an audition. When Carlo meets his former sweetheart Alessia in a class reunion, they confess to each other that their marriages are in crisis and both feel passion arising again. Meanwhile Giulia is invited to an audition in a stage production and to participate of a play. Paolo tries to make friends using marijuana in his birthday party, and Valentina has sex with different guys trying to be a dancer of the famous TV show 'Ali Babbi'. Their relationships ... Written by Claudio Carvalho, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

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Some loves are never forgotten


Comedy | Romance | Drama

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Rated R for language, some sexuality and teen drug use | See all certifications »

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Paolo Ristuccia: Tell me the truth Valentina, what do you think of me? What am I like from the outside?
Valentina Ristuccia: You know what I think about you.
Paolo Ristuccia: Tell me anyway.
Valentina Ristuccia: I think you're clueless and inexpressive, when you talk it sounds like you've got a rag in you mouth and people can't understand a f**k, you don't shower and you dress like a communist loser when the world goes in the opposite direction. This is what I think.
Paolo Ristuccia: Anything else?
Valentina Ristuccia: No, that's enough.
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The ties that bind our selfishness center on a longing for love and being loved
3 April 2005 | by dlpatrick1See all my reviews

This movie is hard to absorb, partly because the dialogue is difficult in translation and partly because of the fading and mixing of scenes that introduce the 4 character stories within. Four people in a family so plausibly like middle class families everywhere, except here in Italy the members are more likely to be beautiful, handsome, suave, and worth staring at for some feature or another. Muccino shows us that the happiness we work for within a family is easily thrown away (no wonder there is so much divorce), but that the common need to have one place where we think we can be recognized and loved for who we are can bind even the most dysfunctional family unit. Each character here is struggling with ego. Carlo (the handsome Fabrizio Bentivoglio whose hair belongs on marble statues) wants romantic love and an escape from boredom of his job and family -- he ought to have had something different, but he doesn't, and honestly he is the middle of middle class personified -- a salesman working on number 8 sale. Guilia (Larua Morante -- among the most beautiful of Italian actresses currently) is hopelessly insecure but pictures herself as a great stage actress, which is might possibly be -- if it really was her obsession -- the real obsession being to retain the normality of her marriage facade. Valentina (Nicoletta Romanoff) is the a self absorbed teen age bod beautiful with the hips and hair of her generation -- so anxious for a bit role in a dreadful television programme to recognize her beauty. And finally Paolo (A Muccino relative surely) desperate for recognition of his specialness. All want recognition for the specialness and at the same time the security of the familiar. Every moment of this movie shows the tension between the desire for a self-perceived "fame" or "happiness" based on selfishness and the pull that conventional family love provides. These characters recognize true happiness when the routine is threatened and Fabrizio faces possible paraplegia. The other three cannot (although they do) contemplate anything but return to the beginning. Scene after scene develops the characters -- and portrays their dilemma of self versus family -- something many of us continually face when lucky enough to have a unit that is at the same time crushing of self and supportive of "love". The ending is perfect -- smile, Fabrizio-- One was left knowing that nothing had really changed for this family or the individuals involved although 3 of them appeared to get what they wanted -- and even Fabrizio got his "break" from routine. Maybe he was the unluckiest and had to smile the hardest as he built his selfish love on a dream that had no apparent fulfillment (NO BRIEF ENCOUNTER THIS -- just a desire for a Brief Encounter). I imagine this movie was very disappointing to many -- it was a treat to one who scoured the video store for something different and found a depiction of every day life that was hopeful and helpless and maybe the description of a happiness that is never fully satisfactory but we are required in the end to accept -- and to live without ever being fully aware.

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Release Date:

14 February 2003 (Italy) See more »

Also Known As:

Remember Me, My Love See more »

Filming Locations:

Rome, Lazio, Italy


Box Office


EUR5,000,000 (estimated)

Opening Weekend USA:

$15,378, 5 September 2004

Gross USA:


Cumulative Worldwide Gross:

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Sound Mix:

Dolby Digital



Aspect Ratio:

2.35 : 1
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