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The Guy in the Grave Next Door (2002)

Grabben i graven bredvid (original title)
Modern, urban librarian meets simple, traditional farmer and falls in love.


Kjell Sundvall


Sara Heldt, Katarina Mazetti (novel)
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Cast overview, first billed only:
Elisabet Carlsson Elisabet Carlsson ... Desirée Wallin
Michael Nyqvist ... Benny Söderström
Annika Olsson Annika Olsson ... Märta
Anna Azcárate ... Lilian
Rolf Degerlund Rolf Degerlund ... Bengt-Göran
Anita Heikkilä Anita Heikkilä ... Violet
Axelle Axell Axelle Axell ... Desirée's Mother
Lasse Pettersson Lasse Pettersson ... Desirée's Father
Sara Arnia Sara Arnia ... Benny's Mother
Lotta Östlin Stenshäll Lotta Östlin Stenshäll ... Anita
Michael Odhag Michael Odhag ... Torkel (as Mikael Odhag)
Margareta Gudmundson Margareta Gudmundson ... Mrs. Lundmark
Patrik Lundström Patrik Lundström ... The Ponytail
Hackim Jakobsson Hackim Jakobsson ... The Moving Man (as Hakim Jakobsson)
Staffan Hammar Staffan Hammar ... Örjan Wallin


Desirée, a modern librarian with urban friends and interests is visiting her late husband's grave when she meets Benny, a simple farmer. After his mother's death Benny lives alone on the run-down farm, desperately seeking a woman to take care of him. In spite of their differences the two have the dream of finding that special someone in common, and fall passionately in love. Benny wants Desirée to move in with him and start a family as soon as possible. But being a farmer's wife is not something she is very enthusiastic about. Just presenting Benny as her boyfriend proves to be an embarrassing experience. And when she gets a tempting job offer in Stockholm she has to consider her priorities carefully. Written by Signy

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The cows' horns were glued on. See more »


At the end of the film when Benny overtakes the hauling van with Desirée, he is doing it finally when driving to the very end of the bridge. After he stopped in front of the van, his car is just in the middle of the bridge. See more »


References Kurt Olssons television (1987) See more »


När alla har gått hem
Composed by Peter Grundström
Lyrics by Camilla Andersson
Performed by Thor Görans
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Simply put: Brilliant!
23 April 2003 | by tord-1See all my reviews

This little film is about the young farmer, who lives alone on his farm and seldom sees anyone, except the couple that on the other side of lake, if we don't count the ghost of his mother, who has been dead a while.She gives him advice in time of crisis, trying to make his life more bearable.

A chance meeting when visiting his parents' grave, he exchange a quick smile with a similarly lonely person, a young woman who is there visting her husband's grave. This woman is totally unlike him, very urban, very modern, having an intellectual job (librarian), with nil knowledge of the harsh life on a small farm, but their relation, when it at last developes into something - after many misses and misunder- standings - is very explosive, and at times troublesome, as their two totally different ways of life clash and interaction with their respective friends (simple farmers versus intellectuals of various sorts) is not that easy. Neither are their totally different goals in life very compatible - he wants a family and she says she will not commit herself at all!

Elisabet Carlsson, who plays the mondaine librarian, does so with such gusto and feeling, so much humour and cold logic that she mostly reminds me of Julia Roberts in Erin Brockovich.

The farmer is well played by Michael Nyqvist, who I personally only remember from minor roles before this.I doff my hat - as good acting as Niclas Cage in his better moments.

It also, I think,shows that the two are long time friends, as the entire film is superb! Maybe the ending could have been different (it is different from the book it is based on, anyway), but a car chase, where a guy is racing to stop his great love disappear from his life, is always OK!

I have never lauded a Swedish film before, but I do it this time: Go and see it, or buy it on DVD - it has English subtitles already! A must to see, if there ever was one!

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2 August 2002 (Sweden) See more »

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A szomszéd fiú a sírban See more »


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