Underachieving, overweight kindergarten teacher Dex finds a woman who forces him to reexamine his Zen-like system of seduction.


Jenniphr Goodman
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Cast overview, first billed only:
Donal Logue ... Dex
Ayelet Kaznelson Ayelet Kaznelson ... Beth
John Hines ... Ed
John Harrington Bland ... Priest
Jessica Gormley Jessica Gormley ... Gossipy Woman
Mercedes Herrero Mercedes Herrero ... Gossipy Woman
Cheryl Anne Jaroslaw Cheryl Anne Jaroslaw ... Gossipy Woman
Nina Jaroslaw Nina Jaroslaw ... Maggie
David Aaron Baker ... Rick
Dana Goodman Dana Goodman ... Julie
Greer Goodman ... Syd
Dave Bynum Dave Bynum ... Epperley Reunion Band: Bass
Matt Nader Matt Nader ... Epperley Reunion Band: Guitar and Vocals
Dave Terry Dave Terry ... Epperley Reunion Band - Vocals and Guitar
John Truskett John Truskett ... Epperley Reunion Band: Drums


In his early 30s, the beer-bellied Dex has things figured out. He's widely read in philosophy, he's studied Steve McQueen the prototypical cool American hero, and he's distilled Buddhism and Taoism into three laws that make him a hit with women: don't express desire, do something heroic in front of her, then retreat. A part-time job with young children, beer, guys, Frisbee golf, pool, poker, his dog Astro, and sex: what could be missing? Then, at his ten-year college reunion, Dex meets Syd, and the "Tao of Steve" may not be enough to get him what he wants. Plus, Syd remembers something important that Dex has forgotten. Can a cool smart guy, 50 pounds overweight, find his bliss? Written by <jhailey@hotmail.com>

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Why do women find this man irresistible?


Comedy | Drama | Romance

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Rated R for language and some drug use | See all certifications »

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Dex's book is not on the couch after he returns from his conversation with Syd by the wall. See more »


Priest: Dex, I find it hard to believe that someone of your, uh...
Dex: Moral turpitude?
Priest: Yeah, would ever consider being a priest.
Dex: Ya know, actually, I was accepted to Divinity school.
Priest: Really? So what happened?
Dex: It's like St. Augustine said, ya know: "Lord, give me chastity and virtue, but not just yet."
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Special Steve Consultant Bruce "Steve" Robertson See more »


Referenced in Dawson's Creek: The Tao of Dawson (2001) See more »


You're So 1988
Performed by Epperley
Written by Dave Bynum (as David Bynum), Matt Nader, Dave Terry (as David Terry),
John Truskett
Published by Windswept Pacific Songs
Courtesy of Triple X Records
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Slight and relying heavily on the "cool" factor but still an enjoyable little film if it catches you in the right mood
6 February 2006 | by bob the mooSee all my reviews

Dex is a ladies man who has a Zen-like art of seduction under his belt. So despite the fact that his belt has expanded since his best days in high school, he generally still has that going for him even if he has generally underachieved in everything else. Basing his rules around the approach of Steve (Steve being the embodiment of American male cool) Dex has managed to get into more beds than his looks really should have allowed him to and generally he is happy despite being a slacker in his late twenties. When he meets Syd though he finds himself feeling a bit more than normal (which is nothing) and genuinely liking her as a friend. Will she make him look again at his approach to life?

The title should at least give you some idea of the type of film this is going to be because it manages to sound cool and interesting and a bit hip without really doing a lot – which pretty much sums up the appeal of this as a film. The story is essentially quite a nice romance but it is set in a post-modern word of slackers who have relaxed jobs, relaxed morals, relaxed approaches to life, relaxed houses and generally just shoot the breeze about nothing. I suppose it will depend a bit on your age but, as some in his late twenties (at least, at the time of writing I am) I suppose I am target audience and I must admit it quite won me over. The story doesn't really go to any depth and, at the end of the day it does just what you expect it to do in terms of how it ends but it manages to get passed all this by having the same relaxed attitude of the characters.

I'm sure it was not as easy to put together as it appeared but the film moves nicely along with a lot of pop culture references, slacker humour and a touch of genuine humanity in the romance. It wasn't the most convincing story or scenario but I was so happy to just buy into the cool nature of the world within the film that I forgave it perhaps a bit too easily for this. The direction helps because it all looks sunny and chilled, while the use of music is cool without being too obvious. The cast also help and, in particular, sterling work from Logue who manages to take a fat, sexist womaniser and make him into a character who has those characteristics but still managed to make me like him and care where his story went. Goodman gave a good performance and, like Logue, she came over very natural (probably helped by being the writer). Although these two carry the majority of the film the support cast are still pretty good and enjoyably fill in the film and match the mood.

Overall a chilled and enjoyable little comedy that drew me in despite being slight and not having that much to it. Probably best watched by older members of the slacker generation or those that have grown up but still look back affectionately, this is quite fun and quite charming even if these qualities are covering up a multitude of sins in the background.

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1 September 2000 (USA) See more »

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The Tao of Steve See more »


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