Buffy the Vampire Slayer (1997–2003)
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Lies My Parents Told Me 

Robin Wood seeks revenge on Spike for killing his mother nearly 30 years ago, whilst everyone else tries to find out how The First has control over him.



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Episode cast overview, first billed only:
Anya (as Emma Caulfield)
Rupert Giles (as Anthony Stewart Head)
Nikki Wood
Principal Robin Wood (as DB Woodside)
Young Robin


Giles returns with a device that may be able to deactivate Spike's trigger. To rob the song of its power, Spike must step into his own past and relive one of the most traumatic experiences of his unnaturally long life. But unknownst to Buffy, Giles makes plans with Wood to make sure that Spike will never hurt anyone again. Written by Alex

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25 March 2003 (USA)  »

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The flashback scenes take place in London in 1880 and New York City in 1977. See more »


When Buffy goes to Robin Woods' office to tell him everything is still normal in the school , a crew member can be seen to the left of the screen. See more »


Andrew Wells: Uh, Willow, a call for you from L.A. Somebody named Fred. Guy sounds kind of effeminate.
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Buffy the Vampire Slayer Theme
Written by Nerf Herder
Performed by Brandon K. Verrett
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Did the fruit fall very far from the tree?
12 August 2010 | by (United States) – See all my reviews

Robin, as a small child, watches Spike fight and kill his mother in what appears to be Central Park, NY.

Giles has some sort of magic revelation "bug" that Willow activates, after which it slides inside Spike's eye then into his brain.

Dru...back in time...in Spike/William's Victorian Parlor: "Ooh, such a pretty house you have, sweet William. It smells of daffodils...and viscera." Viscera. That Dru. Between her and Anya...and Spike...they've got the best lines in the whole series.

Oh...and William/Spike...siring his own mother? Now THAT'S kinky!!

Robin Wood seeks to avenge his mother's death at the hands of Spike, so he brings Giles on board to distract Buffy, lures Spike into his "sanctuary", plays the song that acts as the trigger to bring out the worst in Spike, and girds his loins for battle.

The overlay of Robin avenging his mother's death and Spike/William's mother destroying him after he'd sired her, while the two of them are fighting is -- to borrow a bit of Dru's mindset -- delicious. (Is there anything more devastating for one of the world's true Big Bad's than to be called "a limp sentimental fool" by his own mother?)

A little intimation (ok...a BIG intimation) by Spike's mum that he was more interested in "getting back inside of her" than he'd be in exploring a relationship with Dru; she vamps out; he spikes her.

Then Spike and Robin have a real heart to heart. And Spike -- as is not uncommon -- really lays the wood to Wood. The truth hurts. And nobody knows Slayers quite like Spike. And probably to Robin's surprise -- Spike really opens his eyes to the truth he'd run from his whole life: Slayers love slaying more than anything -- or anyone -- else. Spike also realizes that his mother loved him. After that, he was able to listen to the song she used to sing to him without it triggering anything evil.

The episode was great. Right up until the point that Buffy opens her mouth. She is -- without a doubt -- THE weakest link in this entire series. What a shame the writers, producers, and directors didn't realize that. Not to mention the majority of the BtVS fan base. She knows everything -- more then the 3 tribesmen; more than Giles; more than anyone. But that's the whole problem -- she does NOT know everything. And she -- more than anyone else -- undermines her own stated mission.

8 out of 10 -- DESPITE Buffy

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