Three of Hearts: A Postmodern Family (2004)

User Rating:

7.0/10   

Director:

Susan Kaplan

Genre:

Documentary

Tagline:

One woman. two men. One bed. How does this work?

Plot Keywords:

Marital Separation | Bisexuality | Marriage | Gay Interest | Mixed Orientation Marriage

Awards:

1 win

Cast

Sam Cagnina	...	Himself
Steven Margolin	...	Himself
Samantha Singh	...	Herself

MPAA:

Rated R for some language.

Runtime:

95 min

Country:

USA

Language:

English

Color:

Color

Aspect Ratio:

1.85 : 1

Sound Mix:

Stereo

Certification:

USA:R

Company:

Bravo Cable

Movie Connections:

Featured in 2006 Glitter Awards (2006) (V)

It's just a quiet little film with some interesting people.

Sitting down to review a documentary is a little different from sitting down to review a regular movie. It's easier at times to discuss themes and framing devices and paralleling than it is to discuss a documentary about eight years of a 3-person marriage that's just about people. This one is harder because the documentary's director was a friend of the family. In the Q&A after the movie, she mentioned having known one of the male partners since elementary school, and the other since high school. At times in the documentary, I wanted very much to ask the people involved, "But wait. Didn't that make you incredibly angry/jealous/etc?" Sadly the person that I most wanted to ask about that had to return to New York after Friday's showing. The director really did seem to soft-pedal the relationship, making it seem very much like all was well in their marvelous little world (indeed, she mentioned afterwards, when she discussed getting some more footage after a break of about 2 years, that she went back *after* someone saw what she had put together and said "there's no conflict; they're too happy."). Their families accepted it after a bit, the parents of all three treat their children as grandchildren, etc., etc. At one point, Samantha, the female partner, mentions, "After I told my family about this, my mother didn't speak to me for three months." but that's it, and it comes after evidence that they're talking now. There's nothing about actually *living* the way they do - no one gives an opinion that's anything but positive, for most of the film.

The end result is a movie that doesn't have much perspective, until the last fifteen minutes or so, and if it wasn't for said last 15 minutes, there would really be little point to seeing the film. While one of the leads, Sam, is incredibly funny, and they all make some interesting comments about their relationship, the general result for anyone who has spent time in the poly community is 'yeah, but I've thought about that.'

All in all, while it was interesting/funny to watch, and intriguing at times, it's not a YOU MUST SEE THIS movie event. It's just a quiet little film with some interesting people. It will be of slightly more interest to those who have little contact with the poly world, to see just how the trio deal with a number of things that people often assume can only be handled in pairs. Poly people will possibly want to see it simply because of the subject matter, but will likely leave it saying, "where is all the actual *life* here?"