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XX/XY (2002)

Three friends begin a dangerous three-way relationship that spirals out of control, leading to dire consequences that haunt them ten years later.



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Undercover Cop
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When two college students, Sam and Thea, meet Coles at a party, their mutual attraction is immediate, leading to a passionate and awkward night together, and the onset of an intensely charged bond. As they continue to push the sexual boundaries of their friendship, however, they are tested by Sam and Coles' incipient romance and Thea's increasing recklessness, until the relationship dissolves amid a cloud of fear, resentment and mistrust. Eight years later they reunite. An animator for a high-profile ad agency, Coles now lives with Claire, his girlfriend of five years. Thea is happily married to Miles, with whom she owns a flourishing restaurant. And Sam has just returned to Manhattan after working in London where she recently broke off her engagement. Yet upon reconnecting, the three are drawn back into the complicated dynamic that defined their relationship from the start and are forced to confront the true meaning of commitment and love. Written by Sujit R. Varma

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There's no room for honesty in a healthy relationship...


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Motion Picture Rating (MPAA)

Rated R for sexuality, language, and brief drug use | See all certifications »




Release Date:

18 July 2003 (Portugal)  »

Also Known As:

Coles und die Frauen  »

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Box Office

Opening Weekend USA:

$17,089, 13 April 2003, Limited Release

Gross USA:

$103,874, 15 June 2003
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2.35 : 1
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A married couple that Director Austin Chick knew, were so affected by the emotional repercussions of their friend's film, that they started divorce proceedings shortly after seeing it. See more »


Coles: I was kinda looking forward to just hanging out and doing nothing.
Sam: But we can do that any night.
Coles: Yeah, but the thing is we don't.
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Every Character in this Film Needs to Grow Up!
2 April 2005 | by See all my reviews

After suffering through "Closer," I honestly was not prepared for another depressing film filled with artificial dialogue that purportedly deals with contemporary "adult" relationships. But that is precisely the kind of clichéd material that "XX/YY" recycles in this embarrassing film experience. How is it possible for an actor to say the line "there is no room for honesty in a healthy relationship" with a straight face?

The characters, story, and even the film's style were all unbearable. The editing of this film was amateurish, and there were too many awkward close-ups on the characters smoking, drinking, kissing, vomiting, and even flossing their teeth!

The story traces the development of three characters who bounce around to different relationships. We see the threesome in their exuberant, youthful phase. And at the midpoint of the film, we meet them in their "mature" phase. But the problem with the screenplay is that the characters do not really change. By the end of the film, I wanted to take Mark Rufalo's character aside and give him some good advice, as follows: "Grow up!"

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