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Paul Dedalus is at a crossroads in his life. He has to make several decisions; should he complete his doctorate... See more » | Add synopsis »
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  (in credits order)

Mathieu Amalric ... Paul Dedalus

Emmanuelle Devos ... Esther
Emmanuel Salinger ... Nathan
Marianne Denicourt ... Sylvia
Thibault de Montalembert ... Bob

Chiara Mastroianni ... Patricia
Denis Podalydès ... Jean-Jacques

Jeanne Balibar ... Valérie
Fabrice Desplechin ... Ivan
Hélène Lapiower ... Le Mérou
Michel Vuillermoz ... Frédéric Rabier
Roland Amstutz ... Chernov

Marion Cotillard ... Student
Solenn Jarniou ... Pascale
Philippe Duclos ... Spiritual Accompanist
Elisabeth Maby ... Tatie
Paule Annen ... Mrs. Chernov
Anne-Katerine Normant ... Esther's Friend
Vincent Nemeth ... Friend
David Gabison ... Diocese Delegate
Pierre-Emmanuel Dupire ... Children
Erwan Le Youdec ... Children
Jonathan Reyes ... Bob (enfant)
Paolo Sergio Ribeiro ... Children
Florence Ricard ... Children
rest of cast listed alphabetically:
Alain Bellèche
Marie-Christine Carle
Barbara Chavy
Emeric Danco
Lucie Danco
Danièle De Croock
Jill Helmi
Muriel Hunet
Christian Letocart
Djemilla Racine

Directed by
Arnaud Desplechin 
Writing credits
(in alphabetical order)
Emmanuel Bourdieu 
Arnaud Desplechin 

Produced by
Pascal Caucheteux .... producer
Original Music by
Krishna Levy 
Cinematography by
Stéphane Fontaine 
Eric Gautier 
Dominique Perrier-Royer 
Film Editing by
Laurence Briaud 
François Gédigier 
Casting by
Stéphane Batut 
Jeanne Biras 
Claude Martin 
Art Direction by
Antoine Platteau 
Costume Design by
Claire Gerard-Hirne 
Delphine Hayat 
Makeup Department
Nurith Barkan .... makeup artist
Bernard Floch .... key makeup artist
Isabelle Legay .... hair stylist
Jane Milon .... hair stylist (as Jeanne Milon)
Production Management
Oury Milshtein .... production manager
Second Unit Director or Assistant Director
Stéphane Batut .... crowd assistant director
Aude Cathelin .... assistant director
Bénédicte Darblay .... assistant director
Alexandre Nazarian .... second second assistant director
Art Department
Jean-Marc Fiess .... assistant set decorator
Katharinna Gault .... assistant set decorator
Gary Marin .... assistant set decorator
Françoise Rabut .... assistant set decorator
Guillaume Watrinet .... property master
Bruno Charoy .... property assistant (uncredited)
Bruno Charoy .... props (uncredited)
Sound Department
Michel Casang .... boom operator
Pascal Chauvin .... foley artist
Pascal Dedeye .... foley artist
Mathilde Grosjean .... sound editor
Jean-Pierre Laforce .... sound
Didier Lizé .... sound mixer
Pierre Martens .... sound effects editor
Mathilde Muyard .... sound editor
Laurent Poirier .... sound
Camera and Electrical Department
François Berroir .... electrician
François Berroir .... gaffer
Stéphane Fontaine .... first assistant camera
Jean-Claude Lother .... still photographer
Michel Michau .... electrician
Karim Youkama .... grip
Casting Department
Elsa Pharaon .... casting: children
Editorial Department
Christian Dutac .... color timer
Beatrice Herminie .... apprentice editor
Other crew
Agnès Chabot .... press attache
Agnès de Sacy .... script supervisor

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"Comment je me suis disputé... (ma vie sexuelle)" - France (original title)
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178 min
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Director Arnaud Desplechin originally wanted to name the movie "Comment je me suis disputé avec Éric Barbier" (How I Got Into An Argument With Eric Barbier), as a dig at former colleague Eric Barbier, also the basis for movie character Frédéric Rabier. A justice decision prevented him from using the full title, hence the ellipsis and the added subtitle.See more »
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9 out of 18 people found the following review useful.
The French cinema in decline, 9 April 2002
Author: jandesimpson from United Kingdom

In my comments on "J'embrasse Pas", a film I much admire, I mentioned the decline of the French cinema in recent years. As an example to substantiate this, look no further than "Ma Vie Sexuelle", a work of gargantuan proportions (3 hours running time) that for me fails to transcend the commonplace it seems to be celebrating and becomes trapped in inertia. On the surface much of it is not unlike a Rohmer film. There is a group of young people living in Paris. Paul, the central character is a University tutor. There are at least three young woman in his life and he moves from one to another indecisively. There are endless scenes in cafes, in one anothers' apartments and at parties; the very stuff of Rohmer. The Master, however, would have made it last half the time with several times the degree of perception. "Ma Vie Sexuelle", on the other hand, has a curious lack of purpose, often losing its sense of directional balance. What to make of the two flashbacks to Paul's childhood that seem to add nothing to our knowledge of his character? And then there is the strange figure of Rabier, a senior lecturer whose return to the University seems to fill Paul with unease over his inadequacy to cope with professional life. Presumably he is intended to play a pivotal role like one of Iris Murdoch's "enchanters". But how can he when he is depicted as a quirky idiot who goes everywhere with a pet monkey? The sudden change of mood to black comedy when the monkey becomes trapped behind a radiator is curiously at variance with the rest of the film. There is a background score that, with its suggestion of unease, would fit better in a Chabrol thriller than these mundane goings-on. To add to all the muddled pretentiousness there is a voice-over narrative so beloved by earlier French masters such as Resnais and Truffaut but here there is nothing perceptive in what is said. It simply supplies the connections that the Taiwanese masters, Hou Xiaoxian and Edward Yang, would have demanded far more subtly we make for ourselves. The film is thus a mishmash of influences completely lacking a sense of individuality. Let those in search of titillation from a film so entitled beware. "La Vie Sexuelle" is almost puritanically staid. It belongs to a much older Wave than the New.

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