This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible--the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.


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Cast overview, first billed only:
Ed MacAffrey
Laura MacAffrey
Mary Kane ...
Michael Rand ...
Alan MacAffrey
Nick Angotti ...
Cop #1
Katherine Cortez ...
Cop #2


This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible--the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.

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Release Date:

14 March 1993 (USA)  »

Also Known As:

Büszke férfiak  »

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Laurie's hair changes from long to short & back again from scene to scene. See more »


[last lines]
Laura MacAffrey: Ed, what are you going to tell everyone - about why we're splitting?
Ed MacAffrey: [after a long pause] The truth.
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Women can be dangerous abusers

In this heroic effort to show another side of domestic violence, Judith Light, who plays the main character, found herself learning about a situation she'd never dreamed was possible. Yet it is true--there are violent women, and just as the character played by Peter Strauss finds, there is no help for male victims. Light and Strauss give honest portrayals of people caught in an ugly situation.

Although it was fairly accurate for the time regarding police involvement and other details,laws have changed since this movie was made, rendering many details obsolete. Still, it is the *only* movie of its kind, daring to recognize a hidden, albeit politically incorrect reality.

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