On May 11, 2003, the late Kay was inducted into the St. Louis Walk of Fame.
Her first husband was esteemed Big Band trombonist/band leader Jack Jenney, who also played with Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller and Artie Shaw during his brief career. She later married William Spier, one of the top writer/producers of radio drama during its heyday. Both marriages ended in divorce.
Attended Washington University in St. Louis with character actress Mary Wickes; Howard Morgens, future President of Proctor & Gamble; and, prominent lawyer and political insider Clark Clifford.