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Violet Crawley (Character)
from "Downton Abbey" (2010)

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"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.1" (2012)
[Violet has just had a very catty conversation with Martha Levinson, Cora's mother]
Lady Edith Crawley: There you are. I see you've said hello to Grandmama.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: She is like a homing pigeon. She finds our underbelly every time... Dreadful woman!

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Nothing succeeds like excess.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Are you really that tall?
Alfred Nugent: Yes, m'lady.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I thought you might have been walking on stilts.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [discussing the iminent wedding] The family must never be a topic of conversation.
Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: I'm afraid Sybil's already made the Crawleys a permanent topic.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [ref. Tom Branson] All the more reason if we can show the county he can behave normally, they will soon lose interest with him, and I shall make sure he behaves normally because I shall hold his hand on the radiator until he does.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Cora] I'm so looking forward to seeing your mother again. When I'm with her I'm reminded of the virtues of the English.
Matthew Crawley: But isn't she American?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Exactly.

Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Hello Mama, can I tempt you to one of these new cocktails?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I don't think so - they look too exciting for so early in the evening...

Tom Branson: I'm glad to find you here because I want to apologize for last night.
Isobel Crawley: Oh there's no need, we know it was not your fault.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You weren't the first drunk in that dining room, I can assure you.
Tom Branson: Only the first Republican
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, you've got me there.

Isobel Crawley: We've asked Moseley to look out Matthew's old morning coat, He's confident he can make it fit.
Tom Branson: That's very kind, ladies, but, you see, I don't approve of these costumes. I see them as the uniform of oppression, and I should be uncomfortable wearing them.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Are you quite finished?
Tom Branson: I have.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Good. Please take off your coat.

Matthew Crawley: What's going on?
Tom Branson: They're forcing me into a morning coat.
Matthew Crawley: He has no say in it ?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: No, he doesn't, and nor do you.

Martha Levinson: Oh dear - I'm afraid the war has made old women of us both.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh, I wouldn't say that, but then I always keep out of the sun.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: The groom *never* sees the bride the night before the wedding.
Martha Levinson: Nothing ever alters for you people, does it? Revolutions erupt and monarchies crash to the ground, and the groom still cannot see the bride before the wedding.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You Americans never understand the importance of tradition.
Martha Levinson: Yes we do. We just don't give it power over us... history and tradition took Europe into a world war. Maybe you should think about letting go of its hand.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Robert upon the arrival of weekend visitors] No guest should be admitted without the date of their departure settled.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.4" (2012)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Thank you, my dear. That's very kind. How much do I owe you?
Lady Edith Crawley: A guinea.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: A guinea? For a bottle of scent? Did he have a mask and a gun?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I worry about you. That sort of thing is so horrid.
Lady Edith Crawley: Being jilted at the altar, yes, it is horrid.

Tom Branson: They turned everyone out of the castle - Lord and Lady John Guillamore, their sons, and all the servants, and then they set fire to it.
Lady Edith Crawley: What a tragedy.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, rather yes and no, that house *was* hideous... of course that is no excuse.

Tom Branson: Those places are different for me. I don't look at them and see charm and gracious living - I see something horrible.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: With Drumgold Castle, I rather agree.
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Mama, you are *not* helping.

Matthew Crawley: So what was the deal you managed to extract from the Home Secretary?
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: They don't want to make a martyr of him
[Tom]
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: .
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: ...and with Sybil, they think they could have another Maud Gonne on their hands, or Lady Gregory, or worse if they're not careful.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Lady Gregory, Countess Markievicz - why are the Irish rebels so well born?
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Whatever the reason, I don't want Lady Sybil Branson to join their ranks. Mercifully, neither do the Irish authorities.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: What do you mean, you wrote to a newspaper? No lady writes to a newspaper!
Lady Edith Crawley: What about Lady Sarah Wilson? She's the daughter of a duke, and she worked as a war journalist
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, she's a Churchill. The Churchills are different

Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: I think Granny's right.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Can somebody write that down?

Lady Mary Crawley: [re: handsome new footman James] Well done Carson - that must have cheered up the maids.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: He looks like a footman in a musical revue.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #6.4" (2015)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Shackleton] Are you here to help or irritate ?

Lady Shackleton: [re: Henry Talbot's thin chance at peerage] Forty strong men would have to drop dead.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, nothing is impossible.

Lady Shackleton: How can I present myself if I don't know the facts...
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: - It never stopped *me* !

Lady Edith Crawley: [re Isobel] I suppose she is entitled to put up an argument.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Of course she is. She's just not allowed to win it.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: There you all are - *plotting*.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I haven't been in the kitchen for at least twenty years!
Isobel Crawley: Have you got your passport?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Are you here to help or to irritate?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Really, Robert, you paint me as such a schemer.
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: No one has sharper eyes than a loving son.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You read that somewhere!
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Why do you think I can never make anything up?


"Downton Abbey: Episode #1.2" (2010)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: No one wants to kiss a girl in black.

Isobel Crawley: What should we call each other?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, we could always start with Mrs Crawley and Lady Grantham.

Isobel Crawley: [about the hospital] Who funds it?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh good, let's talk about money.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [about the refurbished room at the Crawley house] It always seemed rather dark when my mother-in-law lived here; but then, she made everything rather dark.

Dr. Clarkson: [about Mrs. Crawley helping out at the hospital] It seems that she is going to stay on in the foreseeable future.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Nobody can foresee the future, Doctor. Not you, not I, and *certainly* not Mrs. Crawley.

Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: I thought you didn't like him.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: So what? I have plenty of friends I don't like.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Lord Robert] Why do you always have to be nicer than the rest of us?


"Downton Abbey: Episode #6.5" (2015)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I am in need of a favor...

Robert, Earl of Gratham: You have no more chance than a cat in Hell without claws.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: We'll see.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: When we unleash the dogs of war we must go where they take us.

Robert, Earl of Gratham: [re Minister of Health attending dinner] What power did you use to get him here ?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: The power of personality. It works for me.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: She can't protect him in the dining room...

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I was raised in a hard school and I fight accordingly.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If I had withdrawn my friendship, from everyone who had spoken ill of me, my address book would be empty.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.3" (2014)
Isobel Crawley: Surely servants are human beings too.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Yes, but preferably only on their days off.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: An unlucky friend is tiresome enough; an unlucky acquaintance is intolerable.
Isobel Crawley: You're all heart.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If I was seduced by a man, I would not let any grass grow under his feet, if he offered to do the decent thing.
Lady Mary Crawley: I wasn't seduced, granny.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: A young woman of good family who finds herself in the bed of a man who is not her husband has invariably been seduced.
Lady Mary Crawley: She couldn't have gone to bed with him of her own free will?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: *Not* if she was the daughter of an earl.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: In my day a lady was incapable of feeling physical attraction until she'd been instructed to do so by her mama.
Lady Mary Crawley: I don't believe that.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Seriously, my dear, you have to take control of your feelings before they take control of you.

Anthony Gillingham: Darling Granny, you know how much I value your advice.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Which means you intend to ignore it.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [crossly, after Pratt has been hinting at knowing something] You're testing me, Pratt. Being tested does not bring out the best in me!


"Downton Abbey: Christmas Special (#6.9)" (2015)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If reason fails, try force!

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Never let tenderness be a bar to snooping.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Don't be mysterious. It's the last resort of people with no secrets.

Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [referring to the Marquess] He's painted himself into a corner.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I know. Why can't men paint themselves out of a corner?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Mrs. Crawley] You must know by now I never answer any question more incriminating than whether I need a rug.


"Downton Abbey: A Journey to the Highlands (#3.9)" (2012)
[Lady Susan's maid, Wilkins, has tried to get Sarah O'Brien drunk by surreptitiously giving her whisky, but Sarah has given it to Molesley who is now cavorting exuberantly and drunkenly on the dance-floor]
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: They do say there's a wild man inside all of us.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If only he would *stay* inside.

[Lady Rose comes downstairs in a ballgown with a low neckline]
Susan MacClare, Marchioness of Flintshire: Rose, you are not wearing that dress, and that is final.
Lady Rose MacClare: Oh! Daddy, please stick up for me.
Susan MacClare, Marchioness of Flintshire: She looks like a slut.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Heavens. That's not a word you often hear among the heather.
Lady Rose MacClare: But Princess Mary has one just like it. It's the fashion now.
Susan MacClare, Marchioness of Flintshire: Then it is a *mad* fashion. Aunt Violet, tell her.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh, my dear, in my time I wore the crinoline, the bustle and the leg-of-mutton sleeve. I'm not in a strong position to criticise.
Hugh 'Shrimpie' MacClare, Marquess of Flintshire: Rose, take Aunt Violet through to the ballroom now.
[realizing that Rose has won, Violet gives her a smirk of victory]

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Cora] Rose's evening had a bumpy start. I'm afraid Susan isn't herself.
Lady Rose MacClare: [with bitterness when speaking about her mother] But she's absolutely herself... that's the problem.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Cora] Poor souls. It's bad enough parenting a child when you like each other.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [speaking to Susan about where she and 'Shrimpie' will be posted] Do you know where it will be?
Susan MacClare, Marchioness of Flintshire: No, but it will be filthy and dirty, and the food will be awful, and there'll be no one to talk to for a hundred square miles.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarcastically] That sounds like a week with my mother-in-law.

Lady Edith Crawley: How tiny the Glens make one feel...
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [swatting flies] That is the thing about nature, there's so *much* of it.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.6" (2012)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Robert] My dearest boy, there is no test on earth greater than the one you have been put to. I do nut speak much of the heart since it seldom helps to do so - but I know well enough the pain when it is broken.

Dr. Clarkson: [the Dowager is trying to convince him to persuade Cora and Robert there was no chance to save Sybil] So, you want me to talk to them and say there was no chance at all.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: *Lie* is so unmusical a word. I want you to review the evidence honestly and without bias,
Dr. Clarkson: Even to ease suffering, I could never justify telling an outright *lie*.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Have we *nothing* in common?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Robert, people like us are *never* unhappily married.
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: What do we do if we are?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Well, in those moments, a couple is unable to see as much of each other as they would like.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I do not speak much of the heart, since it's seldom helpful to do so.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #2.1" (2011)
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Good morning, Mama. This is very early for you to be up and about.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: War makes early risers of us all.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I hate Greek drama where everything happens offstage.

Lady Edith Crawley: [to Sybil] Why don't I drive you?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarcstically] She's taking enough chance with her life as it is.
Lady Edith Crawley: Oh Granny...
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: What is this driving mania?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Goodbye, Sybil, and good luck with it all.
Lady Sybil Crawley: Thank you for being such a sport.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: It's a big step you're taking, dear, but war deals out strange tasks. Remember your great aunt Roberta.
Lady Mary Crawley: What about her?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: She loaded the guns at Lakhnau.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.2" (2012)
[talking about Martha Levinson who is being insufferable]
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [whispers] Just how long is she here for?
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [whispers] Who knows.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [whispers] No guest should be admitted without the date of their departure being settled.
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [whispers] You won't get any argument from me.

Lady Mary Crawley: What do you think?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Nothing succeeds like excess.

[after all Robert's evening-dress shirts have gone missing, he is forced to come down to dinner in a black tie and white shirt, much to the horror of the ladies]
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [glancing at Robert, while flustered] Do you think I might have a drink?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [looking more closely at Robert] Oh, I'm so sorry. I thought you were a waiter.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: No guest should be admitted without the date of their departure settled.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #2.3" (2011)
Lavinia Swire: This room is so pretty. Has this house always been the Painswick's London home?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: There's no 'always' with the Painswicks, my dear. They were invented from scratch by my son-in-law's grandfather.
Lady Rosamund Painswick: We bought the house when we were married.
Lavinia Swire: You make Mr. Painswick sound rather a rough diamond, Lady Grantham.
Lady Rosamund Painswick: Marmaduke wasn't a rough diamond was he, mama?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: No. He was just cut and polished comparatively recently.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Good. If anyone is to be in charge let it be our creature.
Isobel Crawley: Why. Are you planning to divide his loyalties?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I wouldn't say I was planning on it.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: What these men will need is rest and relaxation. Will that be achieved by mixing ranks and putting everyone on edge?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: It's classic Rosamund. She's never so righteous as when she's wrong.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #6.1" (2015)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Spratt] If you were talking in Urdu, I couldn't understand you less.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Isobel] Does it ever get cold on the moral high ground ?

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Violet] Sometimes it's good to rule by fear.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.4" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I won't take sides, it's true. But I don't think I could ever be described as "neutral".

Prince Kuragin: When you go through a storm like ours, you give up hope quite early on in the proceedings.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I agree - hope is a tease, designed to prevent us accepting reality.
Isobel Crawley: Oh, you only say that to sound clever.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Yes, I know. You should try it.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I never take sides in a broken marriage.
Hugh 'Shrimpie' MacClare, Marquess of Flintshire: Why is that?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Because however much the couple may strive to be honest, no one is ever in possession of the facts.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.5" (2013)
Evelyn Napier: Is this your first experience of jazz, Lady Crawley?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh, is that what it is?
[pause]
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Do you think that any of them know what the others are playing?

Isobel Crawley: How you hate to be wrong.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I wouldn't know, I'm not familiar with the sensation.

Isobel Crawley: [trying to get Pegg employment as an apprentice gardener] Then will you take young Pegg? He impressed me so favorably.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarcastically] I wonder your halo doesn't grow heavy. It must be like wearing a tiara around the clock.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.8" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Love may not conquer all, but it can conquer quite a lot.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Kuragin] Don't proclaim your intransigience as a virtue.

Susan MacClare, Marchioness of Flintshire: [in the church] I don't believe it. Is that it? Am I just expected to be a good loser.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: It's too late for that, my dear... far too late.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.8" (2013)
Isobel Crawley: I'm a feeble substitute for the entire Crawley family.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarastically] Mmm, yes, but you're better than nothing.
Isobel Crawley: [sarcastically] How warming you make that sound!

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: No life is rewarding if you think too much about it.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [referring to Rosamund's old French teacher] Poor mademoiselle. Her life was full of complications.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.7" (2012)
[the estate manager has resigned because of Matthew's proposed changes, and Cora and Violet suggest that Robert offers the job to Tom]
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: I'll do it on one condition - no, two. First, Matthew must agree.
Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: He will.
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Second, you will both admit it when you realise you were wrong.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh, well, that is an easy caveat to accept, because I'm *never* wrong.

Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [Edith is considering writing for a newspaper] Mama, talk to her. Talk to all of them. Say something sensible.
Isobel Crawley: Yes, let's hear how a woman's place is in the home.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I do think a woman's place is eventually in the home, but I see no harm in her having some fun before she gets there.
Lady Edith Crawley: Oh Granny! Thank you!
Isobel Crawley: [to Violet] Have you changed your pills?
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [chuckles]
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: And another thing. I mean, Edith isn't getting any younger. Perhaps she isn't cut out for domestic life.
Lady Edith Crawley: [sighs]

Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: [to Cora and the Dowager about acceding to their request to put Tom in charge of the estate] Second, you will both admit it when you realize you were wrong.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Oh, well, that is an easy caveat to accept because I'm never wrong.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #2.7" (2011)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarcastically] All this unbridled joy has given me quite an appetite.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Let's hope the end of the War means the return of the footman, Mr. Crawley.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Matthew] I would just say one thing. Marriage is a long business. There's no getting out of it for our kind of people. Now you may live forty - fifty years with one of these women. Just make sure you have selected the right one.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #6.2" (2015)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: My facts are the true facts.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: There will be Whigs on the green.

Dr. Clarkson: Lady Grantham would have made a powerfully ally.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I hope you are not suggesting that she might be more powerful than I?


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.3" (2012)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [commenting on Strallan's look of dread as he waits for Edith at the altar] He looks as though he's waiting for a beating from the headmaster.
Reverend Travis: Do you think I should reassure him?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: How? He's done it before, so he must be in possession of all the facts.
Reverend Travis: Perhaps the first Lady Strallan was difficult act to follow.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: ...or a difficult one to repeat.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Sybil, vulgarity is no substitute for wit.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Edith] I really think you should go to bed - no bride wants to look tired at her wedding. It either means she's anxious, or been up to no good.


"Downton Abbey: A Moorland Holiday (#5.9)" (2014)
Isobel Crawley: And you've never strayed again?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I've never risked everything again.
Isobel Crawley: That's not quite what I asked.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: It's all the answer you'll get. Remember, we were the Edwardians.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: The presence of strangers is the only guarantee of good behavior.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Robert] Why do you always treat me as if I were a salmon who laid my eggs in the gravel and then swam back to the sea?


"Downton Abbey: Episode #1.3" (2010)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: One can't go to pieces at the death of every foreigner. We'd all be in a constant state of collapse whenever we opened a newspaper.

Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: I don't dislike Matthew. In fact, I rather admire him.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Is that sufficient reason to give him your money?
Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: Well, of course not!
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Then there's nothing more to be said.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.6" (2013)
Isobel Crawley: How you hate to be wrong.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I wouldn't know. I'm not familiar with the sensation.

Isobel Crawley: Aren't you going to say you're sorry?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Certainly not! He may not have taken this, or he may have sneaked it into the maid's bucket when we weren't looking.
Isobel Crawley: How you hate to be wrong.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I wouldn't know. I'm not familiar with the sensation.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #6.7" (2015)
Isobel Crawley: I suspect she's quite a tough nut.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: And I'm quite a tough nutcracker.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You're a clever little miss, aren't you? I'd feel sorry for Larry, if I didn't dislike him so much.
Amelia Cruikshank: I shall forget you said that, but you should go now. Much more and we may feel awkward when we meet, which we are bound to do.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I think not, Miss Cruikshank. Not if I see you first.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.6" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: All this endless thinking. It's very overrated... I blame the war. Before 1914 nobody thought about anything at all.

Prince Kuragin: You think to be unhappy in a marriage is ill-bred.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You do know me, Igor, that I must concede.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.3" (2013)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [correcting Tom on how to address a noblewoman] Don't call her "Your Grace."
Tom Branson: I thought it was correct.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: For a servant or an official at a ceremony, but in a social situation call her "Duchess."
Tom Branson: But why don't I call you "Countess?"
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Certainly not!
Tom Branson: There's no logic in it.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If I were to ever search for logic I wouldn't look for it among the English upper class.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I'm afraid Tom's small talk is very small indeed!
Robert Crawley, Earl of Grantham: Not everyone can be Oscar Wilde.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: That's a relief!


"Downton Abbey: Episode #3.8" (2012)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: One forgets about parenthood. The on-and-on-ness of it.
Isobel Crawley: Were you a very involved mother with Robert and Rosamund?
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Does it surprise you?
Isobel Crawley: A bit. I'd imagined them surrounded by nannies and governesses, being starched and ironed to spend an hour with you after tea.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Yes, but it was an hour *every day*.
Isobel Crawley: [momentarily lost for words] I see, yes. How tiring!

Isobel Crawley: [re: Rose's visit] I couldn't manage an 18 year old, not these days - I wouldn't know what she was talking about !
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: My husband was a great traveler, so I've spent many happy evenings without understanding a word. The thing is to keep smiling and *never* look as if you disapprove.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.7" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If anything happens to Edith and Cora learns later we knew all along, she would never forgive us... and I wouldn't blame her. You see, as a mother it is her right.
Lady Rosamund Painswick: But you don't plan to tell Robert. He *is* Edith's father.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: He's a man. Men don't have rights.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Mary] A lack of compassion can be as vulgar as tears.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.1" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [after a heated exchange between Lord Grantham and Sarah Bunting at a dinner party celebrating his and Cora's 34th wedding anniversary] If you can all put your swords away, perhaps we can finish our dinner in a civilized manner.
Isobel Crawley: But I admire it when young people stand up for their principles.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Principles are like prayers; noble, of course, but awkward at a party.

Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: There's nothing simpler than avoiding people you don't like. Avoiding one's friends - that's the real test.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.1" (2013)
Isobel Crawley: I'm not going to drive Mary mad by interfering.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: It's the job of grandmothers to interfere!

Lady Mary Crawley: [morosely] The truth is I don't think I'm going to be a very good mother.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Why not?
Lady Mary Crawley: Because somehow with Matthew's death, all the softness that he found in me seems to have dried up and drained away.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.4" (2013)
Isobel Crawley: But it's immoral to react in such a jealous and selfish way.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: If we only had moral thoughts, what would the churchmen find to do?


"Downton Abbey: Episode #1.5" (2010)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [sarcastically] You are quite wonderful the way you see room for improvement wherever you look. I never knew such reforming zeal!
Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham: I take that as a compliment.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [drolly] I must have said it wrong.


"Downton Abbey: Christmas at Downton Abbey (#2.9)" (2011)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: A change is as good as a rest.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.7" (2013)
Dr. Clarkson: [acknowledging Violet's graciousness in recognizing Isobel's selflesnes in nursing her] You will be rewarded in Heaven.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [tomgue in cheek] The sooner the better.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #5.5" (2014)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: Ellen Terry has nothing on you when it comes to stringing out a moment.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #2.6" (2011)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: I don't dislike him. I just don't like him, which is quite different.


"Downton Abbey: The London Season (#4.9)" (2013)
Martha Levinson: [as he two women are walking to their bedrooms] Oh, oh, off to bed are we? Well that's very sensible. A woman your age needs her rest.
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: You need a rest cure if you were taken in by that booby Aysgarth.
Martha Levinson: Violet, forgive me, and I don't mean to sound offensive, but are you always this stuck up? Oh, do tell me, do tell me, is the new Lady Aysgarth all set to hold London enthralled with Tales of How the West was won.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #2.2" (2011)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: The truth is neither here nor there. It's the look of the thing that matters.


"Downton Abbey: Episode #4.2" (2013)
Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham: [to Robert in a sarcastic, chiding way] When you talk like that, I'm tempted to ring for Nanny and have you put to bed with no supper.